How to Propose

Asking Permission

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It may seem old-fashioned but if you don’t ask her father’s permission for his little girl’s hand in marriage, you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of snide remarks at Thanksgiving and backhanded comments at Christmas! Get Dad on your side and you’re practically guaranteed a lifetime of happiness.

How you do this is up to you. If you live close to her parents and see her dad on a regular basis, it’s going to be easier. You could take him out for a cup of coffee, a round of golf or for a beer. If you live further away, you may have to do it over the phone. If this is the case, make sure you do it at a time you think he’ll be at home and relaxed – not first thing in the morning as he may be rushing out the door to work, and not last thing at night because he might go to bed earlier than you and not appreciate a midnight phone call. Practice what you want to say beforehand – write it down if it helps. A little preparation goes a long way. And, whatever you do, make sure your girlfriend isn’t within earshot!

Asking Permission

If you’re the theatrical type and don’t want to simply ask, then why not go all out? Here are a few creative ideas on how to pop the question:

  • Create a PowerPoint presentation that outlines your 10, 20 and 30-year plans. Every dad wants to know their daughter will be looked after and this spells it out to him in black and white.
  • Send him a Father of the Bride DVD in the mail as a “teaser” before you ask him for his daughter’s hand in marriage.
  • Take him out for breakfast and get the waiter to spell out “Please can I marry your daughter?” with chocolate sauce on a plate.
  • Present him with some “Father of the Bride” cufflinks as you ask.
  • Photoshop both of your families into one photo, with you and his daughter in the center and say, “I’d love for our families to become one.”

Do you have any other creative suggestions you think would help others? Tell us by leaving a reply.

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