You and your partner are recently engaged. You’re both so excited and want to share the news with family and friends. But how do you go about it? How do you tell people in both a fun and respectful way? Whom do you tell in person? Sometimes, the etiquette of engagement announcements can feel overwhelming. Luckily, there are a few tried and true ways to handle it. Let’s take a look:
Whom to Tell vs. Whom to Tag
Figuring out whom to tell and how to tell them can be one of the most stressful parts of a new engagement. You’re excited and you want to share your excitement with everyone in a respectful and exciting way.
Deciding whom to tell in person and whom to tell through social media is one of the key elements of announcing your engagement. While most people use social media to announce major milestones, including engagements, there are always people you should do your best to tell in person.
People You Should Tell in Person
If possible, you should always tell your parents and your partner’s parents in person. In-person communication often feels more meaningful and more personal than an online post or announcement, especially when it comes to your family.
If you live too far away, FaceTime or video chat makes a great alternative to an in-person announcement. You just want to make sure that your parents feel valued, included and respected. A personal effort vs. a blanket social media statement can make all the difference.
Immediate Family and Close Friends
After your parents, you should try to personally tell any immediate family (siblings, step parents, etc.), close friends, and those who you’ll ask to be in your wedding about the engagement.
People Without Social Media
You should also extend an in-person announcement or personal call to anyone who doesn’t have social media, like older relatives or friends who may opt out of social media use. You don’t want people to miss out on your exciting announcement just because they can’t figure out how to use Facebook.
People You Can Tell Through Social Media
The great thing about social media is that everyone, regardless of how close you are to them, can share in the excitement of your engagement. It’s appropriate to tell extended family, other friends and acquaintances, and coworkers about your engagement through social media.
Facebook is the most popular platform for engagement announcements, followed by Instagram (likely in part because of the photo-heavy nature of each). A social media announcement is a great way to have fun, be creative, and share your news with anyone and everyone you’ve ever met.
Think of social media as a platform for overflow announcements where you can tell everyone else after you’ve personally shared with the news with the people who are most important to you.
How to Tell Your Parents You’re Engaged
Telling your parents about your engagement can be stressful. You want them to be excited and on board, and sometimes family dynamics can complicate that. Knowing how you want to word your engagement announcement can help alleviate any stress that might be surrounding the event.
Including the Future In-Laws
Talking to your parents and your partner’s parents before the proposal can be a great way to make sure they feel included and respected. They’ll likely appreciate feeling like they’re a part of the moment instead of the whole thing being a surprise to them. Close friends and other family members might appreciate this too.
Telling parents about your plans to propose ahead of time can be great, especially if you need their help with your proposal plan. Consider telling parents your proposal plan as well as how you’ll announce your engagement. Anything that makes them feel in the loop will likely be a good move on your part.
Engagement Announcement Wording
First of all, you’ll want to decide if you want your partner with you when you tell your parents, or if you’d rather do it alone. A great way to start is by saying, “I/We have some exciting news to share with you.” This lets your parents know that the news is good and that you’re really excited about it.
You’ll probably also want to be prepared to share the story of the proposal with your parents. When you say “We’re engaged!” they’ll likely want to hear all about how and when it happened. This will give you a chance to rehearse your narrative, as everyone will probably ask you about your proposal story for months to come.
Engagement Announcements on Facebook
Whether you love social media or hate it, announcing your engagement on Facebook is just short of required these days. Getting engaged is an extremely memorable and important milestone in anyone’s life, and what is Facebook for if not to share important news with people you care about?
One note of caution: Always check in with your partner to make sure you’ve all told your VIPs about your engagement personally before posting an announcement on social media. You don’t want any hurt feelings ruining your special day!
Cute Engagement Announcements
Announcing your engagement on Facebook provides a great opportunity to have fun. Consider creating a personal wedding hashtag to post with your announcements. As your wedding plans progress, encourage your friends and family to use that hashtag with any wedding-related news they post. That way, you can follow along and have a way to compile all the memories along the way.
Changing your Facebook status to “engaged” can be a great way to share your news, but you’ll always want to accompany it with a photo. Use a sign or a prop, or perhaps include your favorite animal in the photo for extra cute points.
Classy Ways to Announce Engagement on Facebook
For a more classy approach to announcing your engagement on Facebook, keep it simple and post a professional engagement photo or a ring shot. After all, you’ve gone to the trouble to pick the perfect diamond, so why not show it off with a close-up?
A high-quality photo of you and your partner smiling and showing off your rings is both simple and classy. Accompany your photo with a simple statement announcing your engagement and otherwise let the image speak for itself.
Announcing your engagement to friends and family doesn’t have to be stressful. By thinking about whom to tell in person vs. whom you can tell through social media, how to tell your parents, and how to announce the news on Facebook, you’ll be well on your way to acing engagement etiquette.